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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You "kind of" get their point of view OP, really? They were completely disinherited, and you have no real information about why or how the marriage ended. That's not to say you should reject the inheritance, but yeah, be prepared for alegal battle. And perhaps internalize that this man did something deliberately and extremely hurtful to his own children, perhaps with your mother's support. It's  one thing to have a distant relationship; another thing to completely disiniherit your children in favor of step-grandchildren, when there's  apparently plenty of money to go around. It's kind of bad karma. [/quote]

If the kids did not see him for the last 20 yers, you still think they deserve something? Why?[/quote]

I doubt the truth of that narrative, and also the reasons behind if it's true. A complete disinheriting is meant to hurt your children as your dying act -- short of something really, really terrible, why would you do that? Not saying that this changes anything about the will, but yes, OP should be a tiny bit more empathetic. [/quote]

I agree woth this person. As a dying act, it's a big F U to completely disown your bio kids. He got a divorce and permanently affected their lives. I wonder why the kids took the mother's side and cut off ties with him, and I wonder if he paid child support or what he tried to maintain contact with his kids. It's such a shame that he was petty enough not to even leave them anything out of the high six figures he gave to his wife's grandkids. [/quote]

If I am reading the posts correctly.

Stepdad divorced his first wife after the youngest child graduated from high school. We have no idea what the home life or relationship between Dad and kids was before the divorce, only that Dad waited until the youngest was done with high school to divorce the Mom.

10 years after StepDad divorced his first wife, StepDad met OP's Mom and they dated and got married. OP was in her 20's and married when this happened.

OP's kids spent time with Mom and StepDad as they grew up. OP has not said how this worked, since the Mom and StepDad lived in a different state. Maybe the kids spent their summers with their Grandparents, who knows. The kids spent time with Grandma and StepGrandpa.

StepGrandpa died and left money to OPs Mom and the StepGrandkids, not his own kids.

OP admits that she didn't have a relationship with her step-siblings. OP said that the step-siblings did not attend the funeral or send flowers. OP has no clue what the relationship was between StedDad and his kids.

Based on this accounting I would think that the original divorce should not have upset the kids lives, they had all completed high school. This tells me that StepDad provided for them in some way shape of form through their childhoods. We have no clue what that looked like. StepDad did not divorce his first wife in favor of OP's Mom. OP's Mom and StepDad did not talk a whole heck of a lot about StepDad's first family; that tells me that StepDad was not bashing his ex and his kids to OP and that OP's Mom just kept what she knew to herself. Not exactly the picture of a vengeful asshole.

OP: You cannot take money from the trusts left for your kids and do anything with it. I would take the Lawyer for the estate, let them know that your StepDad's kids are contacting you. Provide the lawyer with copies of the emails and voicemails if you have them. But stay out of this. You had nothing to do with what happened. [/quote]

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