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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Late 30s, 1 child, amicably divorced and open to more kids down the road if I met the right woman.  Financially independent from the sale of a business.  Curious if/how this would change any of the advice given.[/quote]

If you are open (and can afford a good life to) more children, that certainly increases your options. However, the smartest and prettiest women in their 20s and early 30s without children aren't going to settle for being your #2 family--unless you are making a ton of money.  That could sway them.  [/quote]

Just curious, what would you consider a ton of money?[/quote]

Enough to pay child support and private college for the kids you have, and to raise two or more additional kids at an equal standard of living and same college fund, without needing your wife to work full-time.  Part-time is okay.[/quote]

I sort of agree with this except I think it is a little overly optimistic. I think the vast majority of women in their twenties and thirties simply won’t want to marry a divorced dad even if he is willing to have more kids and even if he has the money above. Maybe women 37,38 and up will start being open to the ide especially if you make a lot of money. But you won’t be any ones first choice. The guys without kids have a big leg up over you, even if they have less money.[/quote]

I agree with this. In my 20s through mid-30s, I (and most of my similarly situated single friends - I don't know if we are all the "prettiest" but we were certainly among the smartest, most highly educated/accomplished women in our age group, and generally attractive, slim etc.) were all unwilling to date men with kids/ex-wives, mostly because we had zero interest in being a stepmother and dealing with the hassles that go along with being a second wife. There were definitely still enough smart, accomplished single men who didn't have kids already to go around such that we didn't have to do that. I only noticed my single friends doing it as we approached 40. Note that this doesn't apply to divorced men w/o kids; most of my friends had no problem dating them. [/quote]

This.  Just don't want to deal with it.  Life as a working mom is hard enough without additional people to factor in.  If I really fell in love with a specific person I would consider it, but knowing what I know from my friends who are stepmothers, hard pass.  [/quote]

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