Reply to Anyone else HATE having people to their home?

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "Anyone else HATE having people to their home?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Today, I finally admitted to myself that I HATE having people over to my home. I am a very social person and love getting together with friends, but I become so anxious when anyone visits - is my house clean enough? What will we eat? How does the lawn look? Will people notice the crappy paint job in the living room? Should we eat outside or inside? Where should I put the crudites? Etc. etc. I find myself secretly hoping that people will cancel on us after we invite them over. I dread the visits for days beforehand. Anyone else like this? How do you deal? I am an anxious person by nature and I care too much what people think about me, I need to get over it! Our friends have had to invite themselves over in order to meet our now-several-months-old baby. [/quote]

I just find it too much work - all the food prep and tidying up. It's time consuming and I feel like it eats up all day which is a lot.[/quote]

This is absolutely true. Most of us work 40+ hour weeks, then run kids to activities and sports. Two days off fly by quickly. Having people over is sacrificing one of those two days to food shopping, cooking, hosting, cleaning. Spending half of your weekly time-off on someone who might or might not do the same for you, is quite a sacrifice. It's overwhelming and so much work.

In the olden days things were different. Women did not work, so they craved adult interaction on the weekends. People spent time with their neighbors, so pop-ins were common, which meant nobody traveled for 2 hours to visit you, and nobody needed to be served dinner. But long distances mean that guests have to eat, so every social interaction revolves around food. If I could invite people for coffee and biscuits, it would be so much easier. But that's just not done any longer. You'd be considered weird or rude if you said "come over but no dinner". Ha ha.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics