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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yall are out of your minds. I have NEVER heard or seen a mom who is feeding her child formula shamed. Not ever. I have worked with kids and their families on/off for 15 years. Never heard any other moms talk about it, never seen facebook posts about it, etc.

I do see moms who BF in public ridiculed. I do see posts about it, I have seen it happen in person, and I have experienced it. I do see women ridiculed for breastfeeding more than 3 months, more than 6 months, more than a year. Never hear ANYONE ridicule a mom for using formula for 3 months or 6 months or expect them to switch to something else.

And for the previously linked Harvard article, she doesnt waffle on the benefits of BM. Its not bottle feeding (formula or BM) that prevents obesity. Breastmilk from the breast is how nature intended babies to be fed. [/quote]

I am apprehensive about it, particularly the hospital experience directly after birth bc of my experience so far on this topic at the hospital where I plan to deliver. Please note: I am very happy with my OB and dont have plans to change because of other medical concerns.

At my my first OB visit I filled out a bunch of paperwork before the appt., didnt really think much about it.  One question was: do you plan to breastfeed Y/N. I put "?" bc I was 10 weeks after multiple miscarriages and hadnt really thought about the topic bc I was focused on making it to the 2nd trimester.

After my OB appt., I did a welcome visit with a nurse where we went over a bunch of stuff, flu shot, things to eat/not eat, etc.  She flips through the paperwork to the breast feeding part and says "Can you tell me more about why you are NOT planning to breast feed?"  I was taking aback by her phrasing bc my answer was not no, it was undecided. I explained I was open to it but I hadnt thought much about it bc its too soon.  She rather ominously says "well we are a VERY breast friendly hospital here" and then goes into a whole lecture on why breast feeding is good. It was defin a full court press but I found her arguments dumb and unconvincing: you will lose the baby weight faster, you will save $. I get it that those things may be true but Id be more swayed by arguments on the benefits for my baby than my vanity or pocketbook.

This one experience has steeled me that I am going to get more of this pressure after my delivery if I dont do what they want.  But the reality is all the hospital options are members of the so-called "baby friendly" initiative so its not like I can go somewhere else. [/quote]

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