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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again. 
I dont want to act crazy, I'm uninterested in revenge.  I'm interested in advice from BTDT women who have had to deal with this. The first time she shows up at a soccer game, what do I do? When she shows up to pick the kids up, what do I say?  Just pretend I have no idea who she is? Like I dont remember her? 
I just dont know how to handle this next phase with class and grace. [/quote]

Say this the first time, looking her in the eye:

I have no respect for what you did to upset my children’s lives, not your lack of respect for a Holy institution of marriage. However, I love and respect my children enough to give them the best out of any circumstance. For that reason, I’ll dhare my contact info with you so that if there is ever an emergency with my children, you or X contacts me ASAP. I’m not interested in a friendship, but I recognize that your children and my own will have impacts from your and X’s actions. My interest is solely for the children.”

Then walk away. You don’t have to say another word to her, smile, act chummy - and if you decide over the years to smile from time to time, there is nothing wrong with that either. Don’t ever let anyone steal your joy. Let your children see your strength and unconditional love. Establish boundaries you’re comfortable with and take control of the situation in an area where you can. That is one way that you can easily move into the next phase with class and grace.[/quote]

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