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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I do not know any dual family homes with flexible jobs. Most people do not have flexibility in their jobs. Most are unfulfilled at their jobs. Most do not have job security.[/b]  Most do not make tons of money.  Most people work because their paycheck is required at home.

If you have the luxury of outsourcing your chores, making your kids lives stress free, flexibility of schedule to not have caretakers do the parenting, being there for your children all the time, not being run ragged yourself - you are very blessed and you are also an anomaly as a SAH/WOH/WAH parent.  This scenario is not what is available to majority of parents in any capacity.  [/quote]

Really? I feel like almost everyone I know in the DC area has a flexible job unless they are big law and have a SAH spouse. I went into government (GS-14 fed attorney) and it’s very stable and flexible. DH is in IT consulting and a lot of that work is done remotely with flexible hours except client meetings. I feel like we are pretty typical for the area.

Obviously we know we are fortunate, but I wanted to provide a counter to the doomsday scenario presented where kids are left with strangers or ignored 24/7 by working parents, which is not standard of the working parents I know. Our kids do attend a high quality Montessori preschool, but I would not qualify that as caretakers doing “the parenting.” Even the SAHMs I’m friends with send their kids out for at least part time preschool. It’s honestly good for kids to get out a bit on their own.[/quote]
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[b]Pretty much everyone I know has a relatively flexible job.  SAHMs love to say it's impossible to justify their lifestyle[/b].[/quote]

THIS.  I think I only know one woman whose job isn’t flexible and doesn’t allow telework.

So many sahms convince themselves they would have to work 50 hours, commute 5 days a week and put their kids in daycare.  This really isn’t a requirement to working.  These same women haven’t even interviewed for jobs.  They have just given up before they have even found out whether flexibility is an option for them.  I think it’s an excuse not to work and they will be sorry later!

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