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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you making fish for dinner when you know that your DD doesn't like it?

For most families, I completely 100% believe that a parent shouldn't cook to cater to a child's taste, and that kids should eat what their parents eat, but come on! Your child is in grave medical danger. This is nowhere close to a normal situation.

It stinks, I am sure, to have to think this way about every meal and every snack your family has, but you can't really afford to lapse here.

If you want to eat fish, eat it when she's at school. But at home, I would be making pizzas, tacos, or whatever food she might actually eat.

Also, please feed her right after the ballet class. Do you allow her to eat food in the car? Bring a milkshake for her to consume when you pick her up.[/quote]

Yes I feed her right after class. Usually a heavy snack, breakfast sandwich from Starbucks, or quesadilla. We have snacks in the car but not always. That hS changed recently. I now keep protein bars and trail mix in the car always. We eat fish because it’s healthy and when we do, she gets to choose whatever protein we have on hand. She likes the choice. Usually leftover chicken, steak, eggs, or cheese. Sometimes a chicken pot pie or burrito. Yesterday she wanted cheese because she was still full from her snack. [b]We don’t starve her so we can have fish. Jeez.[/b] [b]But eating fish is modeling good behavior too even if she wants something else.[/b][/quote]

[b]OP, your take on "modeling good behavior" is NOT WORKING[/b]. BTW, your daughter is technically starving. Do you get that? When you don't offer a meal--not just cheese cubes--that she will eat, you are enabling her disordered eating by sending the message that it is OK for her to have a small snack at dinner. You need to re-orient how you present food and food choices. The normal "healthy" rules do not apply to your household. Stop pretending that they do.[/quote].

First thing I thought when I read OP’s reply. Modeling good behavior is not appropriate in this situation. This is beyond “healthy choices.”[/quote]

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