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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You and your DH do eat healthily but you are modeling basically dieting behaviors to your DD. Here is how you start the day for your dd.
Huge breakfast:
several rashers of bacon
3 eggs
bagel with nutella or cream cheese on.
Juice and ensure if possible.
You wake her up early and you make it and she starts by eating more and more, if you need you eat the same. She won't eat all of it the first week, but you do this. 
I hate to say this, but[b] your eating is modeling your DD's eating. Sounds like you and your DH are very healthy food conscious, which would normally be awesome! but not for your DD, not in her case. Go to Texas Road House and you and your DH model eating a whole steak and baked potatoes and bread and a salad. I answered in earnest but your menu posting makes me wonder, if you are serious about your DD's issue or maybe a troll?[/b][/quote]

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Huh? Troll? Why? Because we value nutrition? DD’s hands on diet was developed by her dietician based on the favorite foods DD shared and committed to eat. We made a contract with her doctor based on what is sustainable and healthy. We haven’t been doing this long enough to evaluate if it’s successful. DH is an athlete. I am a dancer. Nutrition is important to us, but we are aware DD’s needs are different from ours. Texas Roadhouse? Really?[/quote]
Yes, really. OP you don't seem to understand the severity of your DD's issue or you have overstated her problems. Is she a failure to thrive or not? Sure, choose, Marx' steak house, but feed your kid. If her nutritionist is doing this the healthy way... is it working? I am just a stranger on dcum, you are right not to listen to me, but ask yourself if this is working? If it is working... why is there a feeding tube talk? If your DD is not gaining weight your way and dietitian's way is there any open minded solution here? I say seek another nutritionist. Sadly my DS's one moved to New Orleans. I will be grateful to her for the rest of my life. I wanted it done healthy way, we tried, didn't work. She told us to do it this way, and it eventually worked. DS is back to eating healthily now. Didn't make him a junk food addict for the rest of his life. Anyway, I said enough, I don't think your DD is eating enough based on BTDT and my DS grew. You do you. My DS is an athlete too, you write your DD does ballet, daily? How many hours per week? And yet she is eating like a bird when she should be eating more than preteen that is not active. I tried to explain what worked, but you can't help people that don't want help.[/quote]

I’m not sure why you think I don’t want help. I’m glad this program worked for your child. It would never work for mine. She simply will not eat that much. I ask for one more bite and she cries and shuts down. I invite teenage friends over eat with her, hoping some of their eating habits will be contagious. She will gladly eat three Doritos and her best friend finishes the bag. I make her a milkshake and she will drink a few sips and then feel full. Half her lunch comes back uneaten - and she packed it herself.  I tell her she can’t play until she finishes her burger and she will go to her room. We bake cookies together and she will eat one. Her GI told me to lay off the quantity and focus on small sustainable strategies. That’s what we are trying.

As for how well it’s working, this is all fairly new. I will report back in three months.[/quote]

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