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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can't men just accept that romantic relationships change over time? So what started out as a high degree of physical desire has quietly mutated into a relationship of deep security, comfort, trust, mutual respect, love, affection, and, yes, less sex.

Seriously, everything else in life changes over time. What stays exactly the same over a 20 year time span or more?[/quote]
Why can't women just accept that monogamous relationships change over time? So what started out as a total commitment to seek intimacy only with the partner you love has quietly mutated into a relationship where their rejection of your affection has driven you to seek this elsewhere.

Seriously, everything else in life changes over time. What stays exactly the same over a 20 year time span or more?[/quote]

Seeking sex elsewhere would erode the security, trust, and respect that had been built up over time though.
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So does avoiding/denying/rejecting sex on a repeated basis.  [/quote]

But again, that gets to what is meant when people say "dead bedroom." If you're having sex 1x a week and still think that is not enough, you need to get yourself more realistic expectations on w[b]hat is normal for people who have been together for 10-20 + years.[/b][/quote]

What's "normal" for other people is irrelevant to my marriage. You can use that metric for everything else and it's just as useless.  What's important is the level of sexual intimacy that keeps both spouses happy and helps maintain a solid marriage.  What goes on in other peoples' bedroom is not part of the equation.

If you base your marriage on what is "normal" for others, you'll never get to figure out what works for your own marriage. [/quote]

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