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Why are you not willing to seriously consider therapy, instead of just asking anonymous people here? Honest question.[/quote]

I am willing to consider therapy, but I thought I would also getting advice here, since there is nothing to lose.

I do love my wife. And my kids. So getting kicked around a bit by a few strangers on the internet is fine with me if I can pick up a few tidbits that help me mend my marriage.[/quote]

So, we're at 12 pages. Is there anything you've read that you think is likely to be terribly helpful?

If yes, how long will you give it before you decide whether or not it was enough?
If no, how long before you make an appointment with a professional?

Good luck. For real. This isn't easy, whatever is behind it.[/quote]

I'm not sure. 90% of the posters have assumed that I'm an aggressive tyrant who nitpicks every single decision made in my household. So those comments are useless to me because that isn't the situation. I'm relatively soft-spoken and I have a lot of patience after years and years of being with a prior partner for a few years who had borderline personality disorder. So I know a thing or two about how to frame conversations in a careful manner. But my wife doesn't have a disorder. She is a mentally healthy person who is a wonderful spouse 99% of the time. But the 1% scares the heck out of me because the world falls apart precisely in the moment that I most need it to hang together.

The comments I found the most useful were those focused on cultural differences. I think those differences might be playing a role.

Most likely we will try counseling, assuming my spouse is willing.
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DP here.

Get it into your thick skull that if your wife was as crazy as your OP suggested, she will not be great 99% of the time.

If she is great 99% of the time, then there is something going on besides her being thin skinned. Somebody that thin skinned would be impossible to live with peacefully. This is because everything would set them off.

So if you are happy with her 99% of the time, theres is something that either you have communicated to her or she has misunderstood from your communication with her that sets her off. You are the one on the Board seeking advice, so see what you can do to solve this problem.

Or maybe she is like everyone else and is pissy 1% of  the time and you are just being overly dramatic.

Eitherway, take responsibility of your own actions and reactions and see how you can help the situation using all the helpful suggestions that have been offered to you here and elsewhere.
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