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Why are you not willing to seriously consider therapy, instead of just asking anonymous people here? Honest question.[/quote]

I am willing to consider therapy, but I thought I would also getting advice here, since there is nothing to lose.

I do love my wife. And my kids. So getting kicked around a bit by a few strangers on the internet is fine with me if I can pick up a few tidbits that help me mend my marriage.[/quote]

So, we're at 12 pages. Is there anything you've read that you think is likely to be terribly helpful?

If yes, how long will you give it before you decide whether or not it was enough?
If no, how long before you make an appointment with a professional?

Good luck. For real. This isn't easy, whatever is behind it.[/quote]

I'm not sure. 90% of the posters have assumed that I'm an aggressive tyrant who nitpicks every single decision made in my household. So those comments are useless to me because that isn't the situation. I'm relatively soft-spoken and I have a lot of patience after years and years of being with a prior partner for a few years who had borderline personality disorder. So I know a thing or two about how to frame conversations in a careful manner. But my wife doesn't have a disorder. She is a mentally healthy person who is a wonderful spouse 99% of the time. But the 1% scares the heck out of me because the world falls apart precisely in the moment that I most need it to hang together.

The comments I found the most useful were those focused on cultural differences. I think those differences might be playing a role.

Most likely we will try counseling, assuming my spouse is willing.
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