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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP:

Just to chime in, you will find life is long. I've finished raising my brood, and if I had to go back in time, I would be less reactive to things like this. As long as you don't feel your MIL is deliberately trying to undermine you, let her be called Mama X (I didn't read the whole thread, but was her grandma called Mama X too? That makes a difference).

The other thing is -- it is hard to think of this right now -- this baby really is not just yours. It is a person who will have his/her own relationships. And you will be thankful for all the people who love your child and are part of his/her loving community. So let your MIL love your child and be called what she wants to be called.

Just my two cents,

Older and wiser[/quote]

Good advice.[/quote]

Bad advice.  Being a doormat is not good for anyone's relationship with anyone else.  Pettiness is bad, but not wanting someone else to be "Mama" to your child is hardly petty.  [/quote]

There is a difference between being a doormat and being kind to the person who birthed your spouse and is a blood relation to your children.  All the crazy DCUMers forget that in a few years they will be in the same position.  [/quote]

DP: I have only sons and would never dream of asking my sons' kids to call me Mama-anything. I will be respectful and maintain normal boundaries, because I'm not an entitled psycho like some of the MILs we see described on here.[/quote]

I have sons, too, and I'll be happy to be called Grandma when/if I am ever blessed with grandchildren.

I don't think that another family using Mama X is automatically disrespectful to the new mother, though.[/quote]

It is in a situation like this, where the new mother has clearly expressed discomfort with the idea.[/quote]

Yes. If the new mother has actually told her MIL that she would prefer that she not use "Mama" as her grandmother name, it would be very rude and disrespectful of the MIL to insist on still being called "Mama" by her grandchild.[/quote]

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