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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think there is some jealous there.[/b] In the DC area, one partner has to be making a lot of money to enable the other to stay home and still maintain a nice lifestyle (nice house in a close in nabe, vacations, nice cars, pricey extracurricular activities for the kiddos, maybe private school, etc.)

To have an UMC lifestyle with a SAHP, the breadwinner has to be making 300-400k +.[/quote]

On my end its less jealous and more...disbelief. I was raised to be independent and to own my own financials. When I went into my marriage I was comfortably set in a career and had two properties free-and-clear. That only helped when we made future decisions together to buy our 'dream' home. It boggles my mind that some women will rely solely on another person's generosity to live their life.

It disturbs me even further when these same women, some of them friends, were die-hard Hillary fans and very much into telling their daughters that 'this will be the first woman president, someone to look up to, someone to emulate' and yet the closest rolemodel to those daughters completely opted out of a career. How can you tell your children to aspire to be the head of NASA or a president or a multi-millionaire CEO, but you didn't bother to do anything yourself?[/quote]

This last paragraph is 100% how I feel.[/quote]

Both of you are simpletons then. You *really* can't understand that a woman might agree with and respect Hilary's politics and yet not want to live out her choices on a day to day basis? Talk about scoffing in disbelief. Wow.[/quote]

Of course you can't see it or you deliberately choose not to. You can't admit that it's ironic for a woman who does nothing professionally - and based on this thread devalues women who do - to go on and on about how amazing it is for a woman to be considered for the most respected professional position in the country?

My favorite is the stay at home moms who push and push their daughters academically (because they have nothing left to do… Live vicariously since life basically ends for them when they push the baby out) yet do nothing using their own academic background, and set no personal professional example. Then they wonder why their daughters dont excel - and end up encouraging "the man is the plan" - and the cycle begins again. 1950s here we come![/quote]

OMG. You are a twit. I did not vote for HRC because she has a vagina. Did you really? Because your assumption that other people did is more revealing of your own beliefs in this regard, not mine. I voted for her because I support the kinds of policies she supports and because the alternative wad the kind of bumbling idiot who will get us into war. It had NOTHING to do with the fact that she would have been the first female president. You sound like a f***ing seventh grader. Did you vote for Obama because he was the first black president too? How simple are you?[/quote]

Don't be disingenuous. Plenty of people voted for each candidate you name for exactly those reasons and have not been shy about exhorting others to do so, and congratulate themselves for having done so.[/quote]

Well they're idiots then, clearly. It's the same as voting for GW Bush because you'd like to have a beer with him. It's stupid. No woman I respect pushed others to vote for Hillary because she was the only one in the race with a vagina. You vote for the person who you think will do the best job (and in this case, HRC was the clear winner for anyone with half a brain).[/quote]

No one was disparaging or questioning your choice to vote for HRC based on her policies. The question was simple - how can you encourage your children to reflect on Hillary's accomplishments and be successful in their own aspirations in their careers and society contributions, when that wasn't a priority in your own life?[/quote]
[b]I feel bad for your kids. The idea that your value in the world comes from what your career is just about the last lesson I want to impart on my children.[/b][/quote]

+1.[/quote]

So you want your kid to think only men can value from their careers, or does your husband stay home to take care of the kids as well?[/quote]

My kids aren't apparently as stupid as yours; they understand that both parents contribute to keeping the family together regardless of whether they do so inside or outside the home. [/quote]

Huh?  You just said you don"t want your kids to be career driven.  Presumably, your husband is career driven or you would not be able to afford being a sah, so,you men you don't want your kid to see women as career driven?  Ok, then, we definitely have a very different world view, mine has evolved since 1955.[/quote]

Not the PP(s) you are quoting but WHAT? THE HECK???? Your interpretation skills are either seriously lacking or you are a complete ass. How in the world do YOU function in the work place or anyplace with this completely obnoxious "you just said (fill in the blank with something that was not said or even implied)" style of non-communication. What a hateful person you seem like. I cannot imagine having to deal with you in rea. 
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Read your post, you are brimming with hate.  Don't you stay at home to avoid stress.  Of so, it isn't working.[/quote]
I don't stay home. I work two jobs.  No hate here just frustration and sadness at all of the tearing down going on here. I would feel better about myself if I worked less and could spend more time with my kids. But then I would have to deal with someone like you telling me I am not teaching my kids to be career driven??? That's nuts. [/quote]

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