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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read an article in which Jessa, one of his sisters who was a victim, basically defended Josh and told the media to leave him alone and she had forgiven him.

Now, I'm a conservative Christian and I understand forgiveness. (Not as conservative as the Duggar fam, but still on the conservative side.) However, I think the parents have a poor understanding of forgiveness in this situation. It's ok to still have your guard up after you've forgiven someone. You forgiving a person does not mean they won't hurt you again. This girl is brainwashed. If my son did that to his sister or any other child, I would separate them immediately and figure out something. I would NOT force them to be friends and pretend to be one big happy family.[/quote]

I think it's paternalistic of you to decide how the girls should feel. If the incidents happened when they were young (5?) and were isolated incidents (there were a handful? It wasn't a routine thing.) it's entirely possible that they didn't really grasp what had happened. As such, it's not far fetched for the girls to forgive him. They might think he's a creepy weirdo, but that doesn't mean they *must* hate him. But you seem to think that you know better and feel compelled to dictate how the girls should feel. Newsflash: holding onto anger isn't healthy. Forgiveness is always the best approach. There was a video online last night of a man hugging and forgiving the young woman who killed his cyclist wife because she was texting while driving. I suppose you think that man was brainwashed too?

I think people see the grown ass man instead of the kid who committed these acts, and that's confusing their emotions and promoting additional outrage.

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For one thing, these parents really are a pair of liars who have shared about seven different versions of this story and failed to adequately address child sex abuse and I don't buy that the abuse was as isolated or limited as they are claiming. For another thing, the girls are not stupid. You think when your brother comes into your room at night (or later, after his untreated behavior had escalated, and he went after his five year old sister while he was reading her a story) and touches your breasts and genitals - and that's the absolute best, least horrifying version of the story - you think after you've been told that all sexual touching outside of marriage is a sin, and you, as a female, are responsible for it, that they don't understand it? The contortions some of you are willing to bend yourselves through to minimize child sex assault doesn't speak well of you.

And an adult forgiving someone for a grave transgression, like the parent who lost their cyclist? That's an adult who wasn't blamed for his own victimization. [/quote]

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