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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Serious question: Does the psychology of workplace harassment operate the same as domestic abuse?

I often see people conflating the two when it comes to the case. Like on r/IEWU, someone who was abused said she also texted her abuser after the fact. Obviously victims go back to their abusers all the time and text them like nothing happened, which means a positive text doesn't prove an abuser's innocence.

But does that dynamic map onto workplace relationships?

Anyways, what struck me about Isabela's text is ... I don't know, she sent it randomly after seeing something that reminded her of JB. And she was very specific about how safe she felt. It wasn't just like a "Let's work again" text or generic in anyway, which makes the belief that she was uncomfortable on set harder to buy. [/quote]

I know nothing about this case but I was sexually harassed by a supervisor (repeated sexual comments plus two incidents where I was touched inappropriately in a private area at work without consent) and because I was young, new on the job, and there was a cult of worship around the supervisor,I continued to be very pleasant to them the entire time I worked there and even wound up inviting them to an important personal event. It was 100% because I was afraid of them and thought if they sensed I was upset about their behavior, they would go nuclear on me and badmouth me not just within the company but elsewhere too.

And I was right because when I finally left that job (took me a year to find another position from the date of the physical harassment), I was honest in my exit interview and told them what had happened, and the supervisor that of everyone I was a vindictive liar who was just bitter/jealous.

Again, only talking about my own experience here, but yes, workplace harassment can look like an abusive relationship. In my case, I needed the job and truly did not feel I could just walk away, and my youth was also a huge factor because I was really scared of getting labeled as a problem employee or complainer of I came forward. I know I'd handle that situation differently now, but I also think I'm way less likely to be harassed in that way now -- I now know that supervisor has a history of doing the same thing to new/young employees.[/quote]

Sorry for your experience but couldn’t be  any more irrelevant.  She would be a secondary witness under the protection of Blake and Ryan.[/quote]

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