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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Obviously I know there's no obligation to play with my kid.  My question is more about whether it is annoying when people bring their own toys to a toddler playground with the expectation that it is not going to be a distraction/object of interest for other kids.  For example, there are plenty of times that I have thought about bringing a toy to story time for my child, but I've always refrained because I don't want the toy to be an object of contention. [/quote]

Okay...so when you're at Starbucks, and another person is using their laptop, does this mean you get to use it too? Or do you get so distracted by said laptop that you can't order your coffee or hold a conversation with someone? Of course not, because you have learned that other people have their things and you have yours. That a life lesson.[/quote]

Stupid post. [/quote]

It's actually not, it's valid.  Adult's don't share. Why to we expect children to do something that we don't. If I wore a new pair of sunglasses to the pool I would be under no obligation to let someone "have a turn" and no one would ask. It is ridiculous to think that a child is under an obligation to share something that belongs to them, with some random kid in a public park, simply because they other kid wants a turn.

If they want to, fine, but if they don't well, that's fine too.

Once when my DC was about 5 we were at a park and another kid wanted to ride her scooter.  She said no and I backed her up. (I didn't know this kid and if she got hurt I didn't want to be held responsible.) The other mother said, "oh well, that little girl isn't very nice.  She hasn't learned to share."  What an entitled little snit that woman is raising. 
 [/quote]
If you brought a ball to a basketball court someone might ask if you'd like a pickup game.  If you were sitting at a big table alone in a big cafeteria and there were no more seats, someone might ask if they could share the table.  Adults share all the time.  We are not talking about clothes, we are talking about objects that are often shared.  I still think OP is off the mark, but this is a silly argument.[/quote]

You are just being obtuse. Neither of those are good examples of adult sharing.

If you brought a basketball to a court where people play pickup it is a reasonable expectation is that you were looking to play a pickup game. If you don't want to share your ball or play a pickup game that isn't the court to go to.  Most grownups learn those nuances.

In a cafeteria, you don't own the table and as such, you can't share or not share it.   You literally can't say, no you can't sit here, regardless of how many seats are available.  And if you did you'd be claiming ownership of something you didn't own.

But, if you were sitting in that cafeteria, playing a game on your iPhone and someone sat down and asked you for a turn, you would be totally justified in saying no.  That is the accurate comparison. [/quote]

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