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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you got married, how much did you really think about marrying into your spouse's family?  [/quote]

Not enough.

DH was my first boyfriend whose parents I wasn't instantly "in love" with. His brother is great... I am not too fond of my SIL (but then she wasn't yet in the picture when DH and I got married)... my FIL was a great guy but unfortunately died 10 years ago. My MIL? Is a manipulative monster who is constantly wallowing in self-pitty because she obviously is the only person in the whole wide world who has ever lost a loved one.

MIL has recently started to play her sons off against each other - she is making a donation inter vivos and is gifting my BIL/SIL her house (which does make sense and we totally agree to and think it's an amazing idea... especially because after they have remodeled she will move in with them and if they want her around 24/7 for the next 20 to 25 years? they can have the house for that!) BUT will only do that if we (or rather DH, because obviously this has nothing to do with me) at the same time accept that she signs over an apartment that her and FIL bought 15 years ago (mostly for tax purposes) which is not paid off yet to DH. So while BIL receives a six bedroom, three bathroom home (for the price of being stuck with her until she dies) DH will receive a 2 bedroom aparment with a $70,000 mortgage (and a clause that he can't sell until she is dead). Yeah... no. She can keep it. I don't want it. I don't even care if BIL receives it when she dies. I don't mind. We have nothing now, if we never get it we will still have nothing. But who "gifts" their son a $70,000 debt and expects them to accept it? Oh right. MIL. Because "emotionally" both properties have the same sentimental value to her.

But of course I am already in trouble for not sending a thank you card for the potatoe peeler (!!) I received for my birthday. Jeez, I am aware it's a tupperware potatoe peeler which probably cost her 15 bucks but really? I can pay her back if she wants to. And it's not as if I asked for a present at all.

My mom is difficult already. MIL is a pain.[/quote]

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