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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I sympathize with the difficulty of dealing with a dying boyfriend, but 48 is still pretty young to die. [/quote]
He died at 52, four years after we started dating. Still pretty young. But I still wouldn't have had to deal with this if he was in my age bracket. You cannot defy physicality. A 52-year old body is what it is. Not from the looks perspective, from the disease perspective.  There is simply more likelihood of sickness and death in much older men. [/quote]

Ummmm... if you marry a guy roughly your own age, you don't think he's going to get sick, get old and die? Or that when he does, you won't have to deal with it? Why not?

Why is it better to deal with a man getting old and dying when YOU are also old, rather than when you are young?

[quote=Anonymous]The second one was 50 and I was closer to 30. ... There were also, ahem, medical issues.  And I realized that if I stayed with him, I would be his nurse maid.   [/quote]
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So let's say you had married the guy and that [b]you [/b]were 50 (not 30) and he was 50. Would you not have to be his nursemaid when you were both 65?[/b]

It certainly doesn't sound easier to be a nursemaid when you're 65 than when you're 40.[/quote]

It's different being a nursemaid when you are 65 than it is when you are 40.  It has to do with stage of life.  If you and your partner age *together* than you both kind of slow down around the same time, et cetera.

Of course, sometimes people have unexpected illnesses, but the likelihood is far greater with a significantly older spouse.

The other issue is that ideally you'll be retired (or near retirement) when you and your spouse starts to decline.  It's much harder to work full time and try to care for a spouse.  A relative married much older, and she is considering retiring earlier (even though that is not financially advantageous or even what she wants) because her husband is dealing with stroke-related issues and even with outside help, it is overwhelming for her to coordinate his care and still work her job.[/quote]

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