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[quote=Anonymous]I want start by saying that I'm pro-spanking, if did in the right way but I want also share an experience.
Until a few years ago I thought that not all kids were equal and a parent had to adjust his disciplinary method in function of the child and I thought that a spank now and then would certainly not hurt anyone (quite the contrary). But recently, because of my job, I worked in prisons and there I understood that what before I would have considered two children with opposite personalities are more alike than I ever imagined. I'm not talking about normal criminals in jails, I'm talking about psychopaths (in jail or not). Talking to them I understood these people can't be really educated, no matter what you do; they never change. And if I have to say the truth, since then I'm a bit afraid of punish a child without knowing if he is a psychopath or not. This is mostly due to a conversation with a psychopathic inmate convicted for having killed his mother after have revealed her his murder of his father when he was 14. During the conversation I asked him why he killed his father and he replied that he killed him because was the fourth time in his life (LIFE, hence in 14 years) that he slapped him in the face (and the slap was just a normal one) and because so he would not interfere with his business anymore. If this can still be quite "normal" in a prison, what came after shocked me. I asked him why he revealed his murder to his mother more than a dozen of years later: he said "I've always been curious to see my mom's reaction to what I did and a day I did it. But she had a bad reaction". So I asked what reaction he expected (thinking "this guy must be an idiot! Does he really thought she would react in a different manner?!") and he said: "I don't know, but I hoped something better, instead she started to cry and shout as everyone else. That's so annoying and boring. At least she tried to beat me" (this is why he killed her, unintentionally they say). At this point I understood that with "bad reaction" he didn't mean a bad and negative reaction of the mother (that's what she had) but a bad entertainment, a boring reaction. And his emotions during all this... well, there was no emotion; he was calm and relaxed!
I really hope that none of you has a psychopath as son[/quote]

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