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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. This thread seems to pop up once a year. After about a year of being good, our marriage is again rocky. The kids are now 4 and 6. We are heavily involved in our children's lives. I am now almost 37 years old and do not daydream of finding my soul mate. I am just sad stuck in a loveless marriage. I seem to have many other friends in unhappy marriages. My one good friend is going through a divorce and can't afford to rent an apartment on her own. My other good friend hates her spouse and is no longer speaking to him. She wants to leave but can't because she can't afford to support herself and her child on her own. Another friend has a husband who hates her, hates their 3 kids, hates his job and life. I am beginning to think there is no happily ever after and all marriages kind of suck after a while.

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Not all, but a lot of them do. Lots of people end up with a life that they don't envision because once you start adding people to it (spouses, kids) you lose control because you can't control the actions and thoughts if ither people.

OP, I sympathize with you. I am coming out of years if resenting and sometimes hating my DH. And he is like yours, attractive, successful, great with the kids. But he is emotionally distant, stopped showing affection and we had a technically sexless marriage for years. I finally said enough, we end therapy or I am out of here. We have been going to weekly couples therapy for months and I go to my own therapist as well. I never thought that things could turn around for me, I thought that I was done. But...six months of therapy later, DH is starting to really listen to what I need in the marriage and things are turning around. His big challenge is him telling me what he needs in a marriage...I don't want this to be all about me, and a fulfilling relationship is a two way street. He is emotionally cut off from himself so that is our next big challenge. But honestly, if our marriage survives (I am 89 percent sure it will and that is up from being 10 percent sure it will) it is 100 percent due to therapy.

OP you owe it to yourself and kids to do everything you can to save your marriage. If you ultimately decide that it can't be saved, you want to do so with no regrets about not doing everything possible. [/quote]

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