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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Bottom line, OP, you may be in the right but if you do anything to make life more difficult for the kids, they will resent it and you will never have a close relationship with them.  And it will likely affect their relationship with their dad as well.

You've finally admitted you knew she was psycho.  So it's on you to deal with it.  Don't make this the kids' problem too.[/quote]

This is exactly right and I alluded to this a couple of pages ago.  You can win the battle but lose the war.  The mom was doing this before OP moved in.  So now OP wants to change the status quo. It was DH's fault for allowing the mom to come and go then and it would be OP's fault for changing the game.  In the kids' minds, their mom has always been allowed in the house.  Now because stepmom moved in, she is not.  Only one thing has changed and that is stepmom moving in.  Kids tend to see things black and white on issues like this - one parent will be right and one parent (step) will be wrong.

TBH, I just get the sense that OP really does not care all that much about the cons of forbidding access. And a lot of folks here are co-signing this.  As a stepmom AND a stepchild, it comes down to 2 threshold questions for me. Is a stepmom willing to risk damage to her and her DH's relationship with the kids to get her way and is getting your way really worth it?  [/quote]

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