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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't read all the comments, but to answer OP's question, yes, I absolutely wish my spouse (who [b]teaches high school[/b]) made more money. I am gradually coming to the realization that I will never have the life I envisioned as we are [i]constantly[/i] stressing out about money. Obviously I wouldn't change who I'm married to, but I wish I had the foresight when I was younger to take future earning potential into consideration -- we met in college, so this was not on my radar whatsoever.[/quote]

It's really sad you think this way.  Maybe he enjoys influencing the future of young people and making a difference instead of doing legal work for soulless corporations.  But isn't it even sadder that a man like this is considered at a disadvantage compared to someone who has a top law or MBA degree and plays douchebag corporate games all day?[/quote]

My DH is a teacher.  I make 2x what he does, so we don't scrape by at all - we live very comfortably.  We also have the many benefits of his schedule, including dinner ready by 6; afternoon transportation by him to kids' stuff; summers off (we don't need camps all summer).  The list goes on.

I can make money - I don't need a man to do that.  I do, however, need a partner in marriage and family life.[/quote]

That's great, and I'm happy for you, but this isn't our reality. [b]I WISH I made twice as much[/b], but we make about the same amount. In fact, I'm slightly less. There are no summers off, because she (my spouse is a wife, not husband) has to work all summer to supplement her income. While it's nice that she gets home a bit early (when she isn't tutoring, again, to supplement her income), she teaches a subject that requires her to spend hours grading papers. Again, I said earlier that I wish I had gone into a more lucrative field myself, because as it is, we aren't really making ends meet. The difference is that there is at least the [i]possibility[/i] for me to earn more -- not so for teachers, whose salary caps out after a certain point. [/quote]

This supports what many on this thread are saying:  Plan to work in a field that will yield the income you require for the life you want.  Don't count on your fiance/ee or spouse to be your provider.

It is kind of surprising to me that grown adults think in those terms.[/quote]

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