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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no problem with kid free weddings, if the couple has no problem with me declining the invitation of its an out of town wedding. I can't afford to fly to the ceremony and fly grandma to home or wedding to be childcare.

I like the idea of the couple hiring a babysitter or two for the evening, and putting on a movie and ordering pizzas for the kids. Sounds like a win for everyone that way.[/quote]

That is the key -- have whatever kind of wedding you want just don't get upset if people decline the invitation.  Some people really do give you a guilt trip for not being there for their out-of-town "special day" despite it being a big logistical problem for families with kids. (in-town weddings, IMO, are a whole different thing -- really, how do you get through life without having a babysitter or who that you can use when needed?).

There needs to be good manners on both sides -- if kids aren't invited, don't bring them.  If you don't want to invite kids, don't harass your guests about their declining an invite.  If it's super-important to you that someone come from out of town to attend your no-kids wedding, make arrangements for the kids.

I think so much of comes down to family culture clash.  I'm surprised at the number of people here who say they've never been to weddings with kids.  EVERY wedding in my large extended family has included kids.  It's expected and I for one enjoy kids at weddings.  A third of the guests at my wedding were under 16.  And these aren't casual backyard weddings.  One cousin even invited young kids to his evening wedding with a reception at a bar.  My kids (then 3 and 4) did well at the ceremony and came to the reception for a little while and then went home with their other young cousins, babysitter arranged by local relatives.  I would not have minded at all if kids had been excluded from that wedding but it was out of town and my cousin wanted the kids there. He & the bride and his sister (who has 4 kids) made the ceremony + part of reception + babysitter arrangements before we arrive so we went with the flow.[/quote]

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