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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I saw my old thread revived a month ago and wanted to give an update to anyone who is interested.

I had some health problems and DH was there by my side at the hospital. My parents required assistance and DH stepped up. I have grown up and now realize that marriage is not all passion and excitement. It was childish of me to think that our love had faded. I can't remember all the details I shared on this thread but DH is physically attractive, smart and very successful. Best of all, DH is a fabulous hands on father. My kids adore him and I am glad that I stayed for the sake of our children.

Sleep deprivation made me into a total bitch. I essentially had not slept well for about 5 years. Now that I am getting a good night sleep most nights, I am a new person. The boys now play together and I no longer have to spend every waking minute catering to them. DH did acknowledge that he had no time to focus on me after working FT and being a dad. I have accepted this and am fine with it. We have much better communication.

As others have advised on this thread, the first years of parenthood are tough but I now feel closer to DH than ever. I'm still not that attracted to him but I at least like him as a friend. I used to be so irritated him by every move that he made. Our children mean everything to us and I would not trade our family for a potential spark that would eventually fade. I am assuming the way I felt for the past few years is why many people probably have affairs. I am glad I did not and kept our family in tact.[/quote]

This thread should be required reading - start to finish - for all new parents.  It proves what all of us old marrieds know: The early childhood years can be hell on a marriage.  No one should divorce until the youngest is at least 5.  Marriages are cyclical.  Ups and downs are normal.  And this talk of "children would rather you divorce and be happy" is such utter self-delusional b.s.  Good thing OP ignored those telling her that her (transient) feelings of hating her husband were a valid reason for shattering the family home.

Good for you for making it work, OP.  [/quote]

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