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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no issue with the OP's husband wanting details. What I have a problem with is him demanding that she then do all those things with him, or no chance of reconciliation. To me, that is painfully close to the idea that a wife must do anything sexually that her husband requires, whether she wants to or not. Obviously they will need at some point to resume intimacy, but recreating the sexual acts she did with Gym Guy is too creepy and coercive for me to consider it a rational or acceptable requirement.

Details, yes. Requirement to perform those acts or else, no.[/quote]

Really what could the sexual acts be:  blow job, anal, oral, various positions.  Not too difficult for the husband to engage in these acts with her and he will likely cover about 99% of what she and OM could come up with.  [/quote]

But OP said she doesn't want to with DH...[/quote]

If OP is willing to perform sexual acts with another man that she is not willing to do with her husband and actually does do so, then she has no basis for objecting to her husband wanting and filing for divorce.  And she gives him absolutely no reason to go to joint marriage counseling to save a marriage that she has already ended.  You are all correct, she does not have to accede to his requests/demands but then she should just accept the fact that her new life is her life, that she was the one who destroyed her marriage and that until she is willing to show some remorse or make some recompense to her family that they will rightfully hate her for the dishonest betrayal of their family.  She made her bed, now she'll have to lie in it (yes, pun intended).[/quote]

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