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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Underage sex is underage sex. Host it and you get trouble. Real, long-lasting legal trouble -- along with the kids.

How can I face the other teen's mom and either casually mention that the teens had a sleepover, or gloss over it? I know that I would bite the head off anyone who allowed kids to go there on their watch.

So no way, no how in my house. Underage sex is also high school sex -- which, when it leads to a pregnancy, can derail a future for all involved -- children, baby (if that is the choice), us the parents left to help raise the baby when we're gunning for our retirement.

I didn't do it in HS, and I do hope I will raise kids who refrain from it in HS.

18 is an age at which most kids head to college. Yes, it can be really distracting to address the new sex issue as well as a move away and college work, greek life, if so inclined, etc. That, I do worry about. I do wish they will have the wisdom to ease into adult life, one controlled step at a time. Time will tell if they do.

But sex in high school? I hope not. [/quote]

1.  It is not illegal for two 17 year-olds to have sex.  If its the law you are worried about, you should be more concerned about teens having sex in parking garages.
2.  I agree about the dangers of pregnancies and STDs as well.  Thats why I have had very direct conversations with my teen about safety.  If all you say is "no no no," then you have no way of discussing this incredibly important topic if they are deciding "yes yes yes."
3.  I want my teen to approach sex with the attitude of respect for his/her partner and in the context of a healthy, committed relationship.  To me, sex in garages is not respectful and "not in my house" only encourages the hook up culture.

I don't need nor do I want the details.  I do need to know my 17 year-old is safe and healthy.

I wonder how many of you have teens yet.  I guess I don't see how putting my fingers in my ears and saying "la la la I can't hear you," shutting out the information, makes any sense on any parenting topic.  Your teen will or will not have sex -- this is beyond your control.  So the only question is how you deal with it.  Pretending that it isn't happening isn't dealing with it.  In ALL things you need to be available to talk to your teen.  You can't have any kind of open communication if you are teaching them to be deceitful about what they are doing.[/quote]

I am the PP above. My parents never said No no no. We never talked about sex, which I very much appreciated. No boring lectures about meaningful respectful relationships blah blah blah... what kind of crap is that? They had no interest in meeting my boyfriends until I was engaged. [/quote]

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