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[quote=Anonymous]If you've been married long enough, you have highs and you can have some incredible lows.  Like one of the PPs said, you don't exactly know what you are missing until someone else gives it to you.  I enjoyed the attention and the emotional bonding with the other man.  I didn't know what was happening at first because I don't think either one of us intended to become attracted to one another.

In my case, when it became clear the relationship was not supportive of either one of our marriages and I realized it fit the definition of an emotional affair, I walked away and ended things.  In many ways ending the friendship felt like a breakup and it was hard for me to get over.  Without him, however, I was eventually able to focus on my marriage work on what I was missing at home.  I hope he was able to do the same with me out of the picture.

If I ever had a conversation with his wife, I would offer up this insight:  The emotional affair was not a real relationship.  It was a place we aired out our problems but did not solve them.  A true relationship is the one you put the work into and fix things when they get broken.  We both probably glamorized each other because we didn't have to deal with each other's crappy side or regular life.  It wasn't real life and was never sustainable.  If your DH is willing, focus on fixing the marriage and the other woman will never have room to exist.[/quote]

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