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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I moved 45 minutes away from where I grew up when I was a sophomore because my mom remarried. The hardest part was making new friends in a community where kids had grown up together. I made some, but only kept in touch with one later on. The friendships weren’t that deep. I didn’t get to keep friends from where I grew up because it was too far to get together regularly and this was pre-drivers license and cell phones. I still wish we hadn’t moved (and my mom thinks it was a mistake).  I don’t know about the word “trauma”, but I definitely felt a disorienting and long-term difficulty with friendships because of the move. I agree with others who suggest getting both kids a therapist. They need an adult to help them process this, and that adult may not be able to be you. Having a “get over it” attitude may result in them being distant from you through high school and as young adults. [/quote]

Oh please. I was born and raised in the same community. Went to school with the same people K-12 and guess how many I'm in touch with now? ZERO. [/quote]

Same here.

Meanwhile my husband who moved in high school has dozens of friends from both his old school and new school that he regularly texts with/calls/visits. It’s personality.[/quote]

Why do ppl always say things like this? I grew up like this and it was a great way to grow up, underrated really. Im not close to many now, but I also dont do alot of things I did growing up because im an adult now. Doesn't they weren't import or a good thing growing up. This situation would be far different if it was a move that was absolutely necessary with no other options, but its not.[/quote]

I think “great way to grow up” is largely determined by your immediate family situation and less about living in the same place your whole life. I grew up in one small southern town and it was insular and awful but it would have been a whole lot better if my parents had cared that they had a kid. My friends with involved parents seemed to have good childhoods (even the kids who moved to our town as teenagers) and the rest of us ran out of there and never looked back.[/quote]

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