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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I are both lawyers  - I’m an in-house lawyer at a large company and he’s a partner at a big firm.  He’s definitely a high-quality man from my perspective, although he doesn’t meet all of the criteria you set.  For example, he works more than medium hours, grew up middle class (not sure why that matters).  But, he is a great husband and dad who is devoted to our family and he earns a lot of money.

Between my colleagues, DH’s colleagues, friends, neighbors, parents of our kids’ friends, etc., I know many married men who fall into this category.  Not one of them is married to a woman remotely similar to the one you describe, OP.  The overwhelming majority are married to a woman with a similar level of education.  I know lots of two lawyer families, two doctor families, an MD and a PhD in a related field, a dentist and a Dr, etc. In most situations, both spouses work, but we also know a decent percentage where one (usually the wife) becomes a SAHP.  I can also think of some where the husband is in a high earning profession and the wife was a teacher or a nurse and then became a SAHM after kids were born.  But this is less common than the first scenario l.

I do not, however, know one “high quality” man who married a woman who never had a career and lacks basic life skills like driving a car.  Sorry, OP, but I think she’s going to have a tough time.
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I agree with this poster. I’m married to a so called high quality man. I am a SAHM now but when we met, I was in grad school. I was very ambitious and earned more than DH when we were married. We both had high earning demanding careers and we decided that I would stay home with the kids. DH earns a seven figure income.

Almost all the men we know met their spouses in school or work. As pp stated, two doctors, two lawyers, people who may have met when one was in law school and other was in med school.

My childhood best friend was like OP. All she wanted was to get married and be a SAHM. She loved kids, was not career oriented, and all she ever wanted to do was get married. She did get married but she never had kids. Now she is divorced and lives with her mom with no job at age 48. [/quote]

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