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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dated a guy for a few months who, when dumping me, cited several reasons for doing so. One of them was that he had kids to put through college and that my job was not good/stable enough, or something to that effect. I am not sure if he meant, he wanted a woman who could contribute to college for his kids, or if he just thought I needed a man to support me, or what. I was confused and did not pursue questioning him all that, but when I thought about it, it seemed he was saying I did not make enough money.

What he did not know was that I have a trust fund in the eight million dollar range. I was choosing to live a lifestyle my job could support (lawyer position that required JD but did not pay much). But I am the trustee of my trust and free to spend from my trust if I want. I just don't make that obvious with my lifestyle.

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I dated someone once who had teenage kids, and it became clear to me that he wanted help with their college and his other obligations to them. In talks about marriage, he suggested I could stop contributing to my 401k once we got married because he had plenty in his for both of us.  I laughed my way out of that relationship.  It was weird because if I'm being honest, I was kind of into him because he was an "established" older man and I find the idea intriguing, but once I dug in a little, he was living pay check to paycheck to pay child support, alimony, kid's expenses, college for the older one and upcoming college for the younger ones, and looked at me like I was another paycheck to support him and his kids.   I'm glad we had those talks before getting married, as it saved a lot of pain, and it helped me realize how stupid it was to date an older divorced dude with kids.   Man, was I naive. [/quote]

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