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Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy for a few months who, when dumping me, cited several reasons for doing so. One of them was that he had kids to put through college and that my job was not good/stable enough, or something to that effect. I am not sure if he meant, he wanted a woman who could contribute to college for his kids, or if he just thought I needed a man to support me, or what. I was confused and did not pursue questioning him all that, but when I thought about it, it seemed he was saying I did not make enough money.

What he did not know was that I have a trust fund in the eight million dollar range. I was choosing to live a lifestyle my job could support (lawyer position that required JD but did not pay much). But I am the trustee of my trust and free to spend from my trust if I want. I just don't make that obvious with my lifestyle.

I dated someone once who had teenage kids, and it became clear to me that he wanted help with their college and his other obligations to them. In talks about marriage, he suggested I could stop contributing to my 401k once we got married because he had plenty in his for both of us. I laughed my way out of that relationship. It was weird because if I'm being honest, I was kind of into him because he was an "established" older man and I find the idea intriguing, but once I dug in a little, he was living pay check to paycheck to pay child support, alimony, kid's expenses, college for the older one and upcoming college for the younger ones, and looked at me like I was another paycheck to support him and his kids. I'm glad we had those talks before getting married, as it saved a lot of pain, and it helped me realize how stupid it was to date an older divorced dude with kids. Man, was I naive.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy for a few months who, when dumping me, cited several reasons for doing so. One of them was that he had kids to put through college and that my job was not good/stable enough, or something to that effect. I am not sure if he meant, he wanted a woman who could contribute to college for his kids, or if he just thought I needed a man to support me, or what. I was confused and did not pursue questioning him all that, but when I thought about it, it seemed he was saying I did not make enough money.

What he did not know was that I have a trust fund in the eight million dollar range. I was choosing to live a lifestyle my job could support (lawyer position that required JD but did not pay much). But I am the trustee of my trust and free to spend from my trust if I want. I just don't make that obvious with my lifestyle.

This is total BS as you cannot be trustee and sole beneficiary.

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy for a few months who, when dumping me, cited several reasons for doing so. One of them was that he had kids to put through college and that my job was not good/stable enough, or something to that effect. I am not sure if he meant, he wanted a woman who could contribute to college for his kids, or if he just thought I needed a man to support me, or what. I was confused and did not pursue questioning him all that, but when I thought about it, it seemed he was saying I did not make enough money.

What he did not know was that I have a trust fund in the eight million dollar range. I was choosing to live a lifestyle my job could support (lawyer position that required JD but did not pay much). But I am the trustee of my trust and free to spend from my trust if I want. I just don't make that obvious with my lifestyle.

Anonymous wrote:As a husband my hope was finding someone well educated with career goals and ambition. It wasn’t about how much money she made. I never asked someone how much she made but I certainly was interested in her career.

Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy for a few months who, when dumping me, cited several reasons for doing so. One of them was that he had kids to put through college and that my job was not good/stable enough, or something to that effect. I am not sure if he meant, he wanted a woman who could contribute to college for his kids, or if he just thought I needed a man to support me, or what. I was confused and did not pursue questioning him all that, but when I thought about it, it seemed he was saying I did not make enough money.

What he did not know was that I have a trust fund in the eight million dollar range. I was choosing to live a lifestyle my job could support (lawyer position that required JD but did not pay much). But I am the trustee of my trust and free to spend from my trust if I want. I just don't make that obvious with my lifestyle.

Anonymous wrote:I spend a lot of time around wealthy men for work.

They 100% recognize that who they pick as a wife will impact their wealth and none of them would pick a 22 year old who demands unlimited spending on her. They’re not stupid.

Most prefer a woman equally invested in their business. So many have a wife who spends 40-50 hours a week on the “family” business.

Most are happy to mess around with a hottie before getting married or on the side, but none would ever seriously consider legally binding themselves to a woman with no career and no money any more than they would consider a business partner with no money or who refused to work.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

Older doesn't mean uglier fyi

Older, most of the times, does mean uglier. I’ll take Jessica Alba at 23 over the same Jessica Alba at the age of 43.

What we know for sure is that you have a zero chance to get JA even on her deathbed. At best, you'll end up with a homely, overweight woman who makes 30k/year. At worst, keep living alone in your mom's basement in an old rancher.

That might very well be the case; however, it is totally delusional to say that a 43 yo JA is much more beautiful than a 23 yo JA. Only delusional women, yourself included, think that way.

She's had some work done since she was 23, and I think she looks better now. Better nose, still flawless skin, still great body.

oh my god lol

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Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

Older doesn't mean uglier fyi

Older, most of the times, does mean uglier. I’ll take Jessica Alba at 23 over the same Jessica Alba at the age of 43.

What we know for sure is that you have a zero chance to get JA even on her deathbed. At best, you'll end up with a homely, overweight woman who makes 30k/year. At worst, keep living alone in your mom's basement in an old rancher.

That might very well be the case; however, it is totally delusional to say that a 43 yo JA is much more beautiful than a 23 yo JA. Only delusional women, yourself included, think that way.

She's had some work done since she was 23, and I think she looks better now. Better nose, still flawless skin, still great body.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

Different people, different desires.

I’m glad my wife and I have a traditional gender role marriage. I can go all in on my career and I know the house and children are taken care of.

In return, she has my credit card.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

Older doesn't mean uglier fyi

Older, most of the times, does mean uglier. I’ll take Jessica Alba at 23 over the same Jessica Alba at the age of 43.

What we know for sure is that you have a zero chance to get JA even on her deathbed. At best, you'll end up with a homely, overweight woman who makes 30k/year. At worst, keep living alone in your mom's basement in an old rancher.

That might very well be the case; however, it is totally delusional to say that a 43 yo JA is much more beautiful than a 23 yo JA. Only delusional women, yourself included, think that way.

Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

Older doesn't mean uglier fyi

Older, most of the times, does mean uglier. I’ll take Jessica Alba at 23 over the same Jessica Alba at the age of 43.

What we know for sure is that you have a zero chance to get JA even on her deathbed. At best, you'll end up with a homely, overweight woman who makes 30k/year. At worst, keep living alone in your mom's basement in an old rancher.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

Older doesn't mean uglier fyi

Older, most of the times, does mean uglier. I’ll take Jessica Alba at 23 over the same Jessica Alba at the age of 43.