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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm from the UK and I've found that one real barrier to making friends here (or rather to having deeper friendships) has been this one - what seems to be cultural - difference around sharing parenting challenges. In the UK it's tacitly understood for the most part that if you share something that's hard about parenting, unless you specifically ask, you're not looking for advice but more so solidarity or to laugh about it or just to share and feel less alone or incompetent. Among the moms at my kids school I find almost universally that if i share something that's hard, they give me advice. For me personally it's a real barrier to friendships bc a. I often don't need or want advice per se and b. it sort of stops any kind of bonding or even really conversation in its tracks. 
Is this an american cultural thing where if someone shares something hard it's assumed they want input or is my school different in some way? would love to find a tribe that I can laugh about my kids imitating youtubers rather than hear a 15 minute diatribe on how someone else is crushing it with not letting this happen. [/quote]

American moms these days are trying to grow and change. We are confronting generational trauma and sharing our experiences, not just “getting on with it”.  [/quote]

Is part of confronting generational trauma learning to think without massive stereotypes? Because I think you have more work to do.

And you think it’s a good idea to launch into confronting generational trauma that before checking to see the mood? I’m American, and I’d rather share a laugh on a Friday afternoon and confront trauma on Monday morning. That’s what empathy does: it helps you realize things like adjusting for context.[/quote]

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