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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, gold digger "testing" her dates is single - SHOCKER!

Maybe you should be more generous with your expectations. Testing dates is immature and shows a real lack of kindness. [/quote]

So true about how "tests" are immature. People who create tests in their heads are really are people who have no idea how mature adults communicate.

I don't know that OP is a gold digger since she insists she's got plenty of money. But that accusation is one reason why, years ago, I started a relationship with a man and from the very first minute told him we would split everything. Since we were blunt about the relationship being for sex and fun and nothing more, I didn't want to owe him anything material or monetary. Even if only the two of us knew about it. And the only "testing" we did was STI testing.

No games, no trad "etiquette" like OP wants, and no mind-reading expected! [/quote]

OP isn’t looking for a boy toy just for sex: don’t you see the difference ? [/quote]

Oh, I definitely see the difference, PP. I'm saying that our morally "bad" relationship for, gasp, sex, at least was more honest, up front and actually equitable than OP's attempt at finding a "good" relationship with Mr. Traditional. At least we were always honest with each other about what we expected....[/quote]

OP here: I met a few men who were not up to pulling off their weight in relationship. And I did offer them FWB arrangements: men always declined claiming it would be "immoral" or "self destructing for them". Men want to have cake and eat it, too, by having a woman take care of everything. When a woman goes "I just want you for sex" they quickly call her immoral. [/quote]

Men who would turn down FWB as immoral should be the upstanding men you claim you're seeking....shouldn't they? Oh, right they "were not up to pulling off their weight in relationship." Whatever that means. Maybe it only means "They won't pay for the first date like I telepathically told them to do."

You're a contradictory hoot, for sure.

And since you're so into proper etiquette, what does Miss Manners say is the correct way to offer FWB? Do share. [/quote]

They didn’t pull weight in maintaining proper continuous communication, listening, planing dates ahead of time etc. Yes one would also run up the bill and expect to pay. 
On FWB I didn’t call it that way specifically but just said I wouldn’t mind seeing them only for sex if they don’t have bandwidth to build a relationship. Both thought there were amazing and more than worthy of my time, and got really mad when I offered to meet once a week instead of a few times. I don’t have time for mediocre dates. It doesn’t need to be eating out or Ritz at all but rather thoughtful  planning. Jazz events, interesting hikes, exhibits etc. [/quote]
Ew is this the 50+ lady who got mad that her date wouldn't spend enough money on their dates? [/quote]

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