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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a medical issue where I need to wear a brace that sits in my shoe. I literally can’t walk without it. When I am asked to remove my shoes at someone’s house I explain to the host and keep my shoes on. It has lead to some awkwardness as I have my shoes on as everyone else has to take them off. I did have one neighbor who said that taking shoes off wasn’t optional, so I apologized and left the party. [/quote]

Just being shoe covers.  [/quote]

You’ll be shocked to learn that someone who needs a brace to walk doesn’t do well with the extra fall hazard of sliding paper over my shoes.

I left with no hard feelings when I couldn’t wear shoes.  If people prioritize a shoe free house over accommodation for my issue, I’m fine with it. Truly, I am.  I’m not saying that to be snarky. But that it really the situation I find myself in when people have shoe free events. [/quote]

My BFF has a similar need to wear shoes. She brings indoor shoes when she goes out, or if she is in a position to not change shoes, she wears shoe covers on her indoor shoes to the door and then removes those. [/quote]

NP. I have a friend with spina bifida who is in a similar situation to PP. She wears leg braces and must wear a particular kind of shoe with them otherwise she literally cannot walk at all. She has a damaged spinal cord and no feeling at all in her lower legs or feet, so the braces and shoes allow her feet to be kept in line to balance even though she can’t feel past her knees. Sort of like artificial limbs. She drives an adapted car and her walking is very slow and effortful and her balance is easily upset.

Forcing someone like this to shlep extra pairs of shoes so she can feel like a spectacle and struggle to sit down and stand up while she changes and possibly fall and generally just feel like a leper, all so outdoor shoes don’t come into the host’s house, is so breathtakingly rude. If I saw a guest with CP or spina bifida doing that to cope with a host’s requirements I would think the host was abhorrent and totally thoughtless and should never host anything again. Maybe people should also bring a second set of indoor crutches, or an indoor wheelchair, since those touch the ground?

I get the cultural gaps and I don’t wear shoes in the house either. But there are exceptions to every rule. [/quote]

Nobody will expect people with such issues to take off their shoes.  C'mon. People are not inflexible.  Disabled, sick, or elderly individuals are in every culture and society (except N Korea). [/quote]

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