Reply to School refusal after suspension

Forum Index » Elementary School-Aged Kids

Reply to "School refusal after suspension"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Op, this isn’t typical school refusal. For my kid, who has lots of friends at school, there is an issue with transition and separation that leads to anxiety and refusal. But there wasn’t a problem at school. We could talk about how she was safe there and identify safe people like a supportive teacher and administrator that she could seek out upon arrival to ease the transition. The school was supportive of that. We also worked with her on tolerating the anxiety better. Things have improved so much.

None of that would work for your kid. He isn’t safe at school. He doesn’t have friends and the teachers and administrators don’t have his back.

I might lean into that a bit in helping him cope with the next few weeks. “I know this is awful. It makes sense that you’re so upset. I wish we had other options for right now. We need to finish this school year at this school. How can we help make that more tolerable for you? In the meantime, let’s start working together to come up with a plan for next year.”

What incentives does he respond to? How can you give some sparks of joy outside of school? Is there a friend from his rec sport you guys can invite to do something after the activity this weekend? Does he want to do one of those indoor sky diving things? Go for ice cream on Fridays? Absolutely lean in to supporting him within your family unit. And let him play video games! [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics