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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because we are now raising women to give themselves away and expect nothing in return. Presumably, they’ll have to support their families while the husbands play video games and watch porn in a state of perpetual adolescence. [/quote]

I would agree with this.
30 years ago I would have rolled my eyes at the old fashioned concept of a ring. But OP is onto something about the symbolism behind it. It symbolizes that he is making an effort. And that is the right way to start a marriage because if he isn't as invested in it as she is, she will be bearing the burdens of their life together.
When full of youthful visions of gender equality, this doesn't seem like a big deal. 
Throw in a few kids, mortgage, car payments, caring for aging parents, saving for college, etc.. that's a lot to put on one person.[/quote]

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I say this as a person who received a 2 karat ring from my ex. He didn't bother to get a ring, his parents gave it to him. 
For most of that marriage, I was married to his parents and he was their puppet. I gave that ring back to them when we divorced - it was a beautiful ring but I hated the fact that he didn't make an effort and his parents were behind the shiny object. It embodied everything wrong with the arrangement going forward.[/quote]

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