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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want to say, my DH and I have friends, while we are both somewhat awkward (ADHD, both) but also we drink and live in the city. This is good/bad/neutral depending on your POV, but drinking brings people together. Drinking is also very bad for human bodies, especially if you do it daily for tens of years out of a life expectancy of 70-80.

That's the sort of thing I contemplate. My friends are really good  we do vacations, get kids together, create community. We also are mostly functional alchohol abusers with excellent jobs and enough money not to worry.

There are others, above my class, who enjoy the above as well as happiness, health, functional relationships, etc. Raised by actual  loving, healthy people. The ones I see jogging when I'm hungover. I am assuming they also have amazing friendships too.

Other factors: living in a place for an amount of time. Taking the initiative to get involved. Joining, being a member of a hobby group. Giving, taking time to give what you can to your community. It's how to meet people, improve yourself, and help others. Even drunks can manage that.

I’ve thought about this, too. We used to drink way too much but made friends in the process. This was back when the kids were staring school and we were meeting school families. Drunken game nights, drunken dinner parties, drunken moms nights out. I’m not encouraging this, but if OP and her DH are dry, maybe that’s why he doesn’t get invited to office social events?

[/quote][/quote]   So if you guys drink together. Does that mean you can rely on these people to like? Maybe pick you up when you have a surgery? Cuz That's the problem i'm having.  My friends can drink all day with me. But they can't offer to do something like this.  Also, they can't celebrate my birthday. They are not interested in when it is. They can't celebrate holidays with me. The only time we spend together is while we are getting intoxicated.  I don't consider this a friend.  I can walk into any dive bar and start buying drinks for people and immediately. Have people to hang out with until the bar closes.  That is the nature of an alcoholic.  I'm not interested in sitting around with people who want to become intoxicated and need someone else who is also becoming intoxicated to keep them company while doing so.  That to me is not a friend. Or like I said that friend is available under any rock around any corner leaned up against any building in any skid row.  Also I don't like to be around people when they are intoxicated.  They can't be relied on for anything: If I fall and break my arms. They can't drive me to the Hospital. What good of a friend is that?  So i'm confused here as to what you guys mean by "friends"?  It's definitely not what was meant by friends in the friend's tv show "I'll be there for you?"  Ummm....no, more like I won't be there for you cuz im too drunk.[/quote]

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