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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a millennial and chalked up the lack of kids to [b]being in a high-achieving cohort. Maybe half of us have kids? The other half aren't married.[/b] I don't many that are childless by choice (as far as I know). My friends both gay and straight that are married by in large have kids usually 2-3. But I myself hit total unexplained secondary infertility at 35 so have 2 kids but am unlikely to have 3.

My husband is in the military and in his friend group we only know 2 childless by choice couples. Most men have 1 if not 2 sets of kids by different women thanks to the damage the many years in war did on their personal lives.

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It’s funny how individual the definition of “achievement” is because if you’re in your 30s unmarried and/or married and childless for a reason other than infertility I would define this as a massive life failure. As would most of my “cohort” (all who have good high paying jobs). [/quote]

Birthing babies is not an "achievement".[/quote]

It's the most important achievement.  Passing on one's genes is the reason for being.[/quote]

No that's bottom of the barrel with respect to "achievements". Leaving a mark on the world is an achievement. [/quote]

DP. Raising two really good, kind, responsible people is my mark on the world. It’s the most important thing I personally will ever achieve. [/quote]

A mark that almost nobody knows about or cares about except you and a handful of friends/family is not an achievement.

It's just a selfish indulgent act. Nobody wants you to have kids except yourself. [/quote]

Actually having kids is kind of selfish and indulgent, yes.

But once you have them, the choice to actually dedicate yourself to raising them, giving them a good start to life, and guiding them into adulthood as good people is the opposite of selfish or indulgent. Not all parents do this, but those that do are engaged in truly meaningful work and it is an achievement.

The vast majority of people never do professional work that anyone really cares about beyond their immediate circle. Hard truth. This is why parenting presents a lot of people with the opportunity to finally do something really lasting and meaningful. [/quote]

It's not selfless if you do it for your own pleasure, or if you want to brag about them or say... look at my great kids. Look at me...I'm a great parents. When in actuality you may have just gotten lucky.

Wow congrats your kids are not ax murderers.

You and I agree, that most people do not achieve much in their years on this earth.. that is one thing you and I can agree on. [/quote]

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