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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP’s instincts aren’t wrong.

This behavior is ONLY helpful if OP and her husband have already decided that they plan frequent and lengthy visits with MIL, use MIL for babysitting and child care, and plan to leave the baby there. It sounds like OP and her husband haven’t made those decisions yet but MIL is presuming she’s going to be hosting the baby frequently. It’s the presumptuous behavior and if MIL has already shown herself to be overstepping, whiny, demanding or whatever would be a very bad sign.

The things that would be helpful for short, non weekly visits would be a pack and play, high chair and child proofing the house. MIL doesn’t need a crib, changing station, car seat, second set of clothes, diapers, bottles, bouncy seat, swing, stroller etc.

OP and her husband should have a conversation with MIL to figure out what her intentions/expectations are with outfitting a nursery at her house. OP and her husband then need to start thinking what will work best for them and their baby.[/quote]

Helpful hint: you don't need to plan out an unborn baby's life before it is even born. Part of being a good parent is being flexible. OP has no idea how this is all going to play out.[/quote]

So wouldn’t you then think that OP’s MIL is already planning how her unborn grand baby’s life is going to be. What if OP has a boundary stomping MIL and doesn’t want her baby at her MIL’s home?[/quote]

No. I don't that at all. Are you always this negative? The glass is half empty? MIL has probably gotten advice from her friends who are grandparents that readying a home for a grandchild is a good idea. Beats having a MIL with a house full of sharp edges breakable tchotchke, unprotected pools, dangerous stairs, and many other problems. So she bought a high chair. Oh no! Time to panic. [/quote]

The PP’s point just flew over your head, must be age related cognitive decline. You chide the DIL for not being flexible in waiting to see what is useful but see no problem in granny trampling ahead and outfitting her house making plans for the baby to stay there. It would be far more logical for granny to wait and see how often her son and family want to come to their house and what they need. [/quote]

Granny bought the stuff on sale. Sales don't last forever. I don't really care what goes on at my MILs house. She could have bought all the things but if I wasn't planning to take the baby there, then so what? As it is I haven't visited my MILs house in about 10 years. She visits us only.[/quote]

who are kidding, there’s always sales somewhere. If granny cared about saving money, she wouldn’t be so presumptuous and ask OP before she bought items for her home.[/quote]

Ask her… what? If she, the grandmother, wants a high chair? [/quote]

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