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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a majority would given the opportunity. I work with mostly men and travel for work and the ones that get the opportunity easily presented to them while on business usually take it.

I know I could cheat with several of my coworkers if I wanted and I am sure their wives would not be happy with how close some of them are to me.[/quote]

Here's the key thing, which this thread has largely ignored: what [u]exactly[/u] is meant by a married man being "given an opportunity" to cheat. So let us clarify: a married man is [u]given an opportunity[/u] to cheat when a woman actively and un-ambiguously comes on to him for sex. As PP (a female) observed, several of her her male co-workers have (in various ways) actively "come on to her" for sex, such that she is certain that all she needs to do is say Yes. THAT my friends is opportunity! And most women are literally swimming in this kind of opportunity on a daily basis and have absolutely NO IDEA how rare this kind of opportunity is for a man. Let's be honest... what percentage of married men ever (and I literally mean EVER) have a woman [u]actively come on to him for sex[/u] without HIM actively pursuing her first? Single digits.

Do we really need a thread discussing a single digit percentage of married men?[/quote]

Being away on travel at a conference with booze and a flirty environment is enough. The women doesn't necessarily need to make the move.

Is it news to you that men are more forward and men and women signal interest in different ways, with women typically being far more subtle?[/quote]

So if a man is away at a conference, he goes out drinking, flirts around, HE makes the first move .... now SHE responds (favorably) ... you consider that "him being given an opportunity"?!? I would call that him going out LOOKING TO CREATE an opportunity.[/quote]

Opportunity, in such a man's mind, might simply be the prospect of doing it and getting away with it without much scrutiny or chance of it getting back and ruining your life. You can't behave like that if you're constantly around your wife. If your job or lifestyle is such that you can more openly engage in such pursuits, then yes, men will capitalize on such opportunities.

"Given the opportunity" doesn't mean a woman is throwing herself at you. Just means you are in situations that are more conducive to cheating. Some men are more proactive in creating those situations, but others could fall into cheating if they happen to find themselves in such a situation.

Another type of "opportunity" might be having an attractive live-in nanny while your wife is away on work travel. Higher likelihood of cheating in this situation, than the dude without the hot nanny.[/quote]

Again we must be clear that the phrase [u]opportunity to cheat[/u] has an ENTIRELY different meaning for a man vs a woman. For a woman, if she is breathing and within driving distance of any man, she has an [u]opportunity to cheat[/u]. For a man, if he is [b]actively flirting in the right way in the right environment OFTEN ENOUGH[/b] to elicit a favorable response from a woman, he has an [u]opportunity to cheat[/u]. If you are going to remove the requirement for a man to be PROACTIVE where HE CREATES the opportunity ... again I saw we are back to a single digit percentage of men. Based now on our mutual understanding of terms, the original post SHOULD be phrased like so:

[i]Do all men who, after several months of proactively flirting and coming on to 30 women who said No, cheat with the 31st woman who finally says Yes?[/i][/quote]

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