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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the mom of an only so I have some perspective.  I understand why you are annoyed.  I am usually the mom initiating the play date.  My son’s friends all have siblings that they play with fairly often so play dates aren’t as much of a priority.

I try to be accommodating and understanding.  I have one friend whose husband works many weekends so she is with all 3 kids by herself.  I[b] will make an extra effort to go pick up her so[/b]n, who is my son’s friend so she can have one on one time with her middle child while the baby is napping.  I have an extra car seat in my car so I can take a friend with my son on an excursion.

We don’t receive the reciprocation I would like but the alternative is lots of loneliness for my social kid.  It is possible that I am a sucker but I will make that sacrifice for the good of my kid.  [/quote]\

As the parent of multiple kids, here is what you have to understand: you are making this sacrifice for your kid, not for your friend -- or even your friend's kid. Her kid likely has his/her own, built-in playmates typically and there's no real need to create exrtra socializing in the same way there would be as an only. Just because your kid/ you are desparate for a playdate, they aren't necessarily (even if it's nice) and they own you nothing.[/quote]

THIS THIS THIS. My DD has a friend who is constantly inviting her to do things, mom will offer to bring her home from aftercare, wants to do sleepovers all the time, etc., and it's not because she's trying to do me a favor, it's because she wants her kid out of her hair so she can have a minute. I'm all for that and I'm fortunate in that my kids play together so I can get that break, so I understand why she wants it, but don't say you're doing me a favor when it's all about you.[/quote]

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