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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are handing this with so much more grace than I did.  I read the texts and emails between my H and his OW.  He complained so much about me.  I mean how dare I ask him to take care of his own kids and help me with the house.  I worked as much as he did and paid the bills equally.  There were no issues with his mistress like that.  They lived in this fairy tale where they had no such problems.  There only real issue in this lalala land they lived in was their spouses who kept getting in the way.

About a month before I found out about the affair he told me he was planning on going away for the weekend with his buddy on a golf weekend and his parents were coming to visit.  I was like you are doing no such thing.  He was so far gone he was going to miss part of his parents visit.

I read the text exchange and he told her how I made a huge issue and there was no way he could meet her now.  He said it would raise to many red flags.  She was upset and crying emojis like how dare I interfere.

The more I read the angrier I got.  I was like you thought I was a nagging bi**h before you have seen nothing yet.

He spent a lot of money on his mistress on their dinners and trips so I made him sell his golf clubs, motorcycle, fishing/hunting equipment.  He gave me all the money he made selling that stuff and I blew it.  I had him doing all the cooking, cleaning, childcare while I went out with my friends.  I spent his money like crazy beyond the items I made him sell and I dared him to say anything.

After 3 months of this I was like what the hell am I doing.  I needed to get my sanity back.  I kicked him out that day and I wish I said I filed for divorce but we separated and started marital counseling.  It was a waste of time for me.

In counseling he told me that his mistress contacted him and I said I don't care.  I said I could come home and find him f***ing her in our bed and I would say excuse me and shut the door and go about my business.  He and the counselor looked at me in total shock and I said we need to get a divorce.  It's been final for 2 months and I am still trying to find my new normal with the kids.

[b]My life is so much better now that we are no longer in marital counseling and the divorce is final.[/b][/quote]

Do your kids feel the same way?

That's not snark, I'm genuinely curious. 
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