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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]In my experience not everybody fits a stereotype. In my opinion, instead of applying them to women, men, or nonbinary, it's a better practice to create an environment where people feel comfortable sharing. [/quote]

But, until/unless someone can provide a science-based explanation of how wanting to be something is the same as being that thing, many of us are likely to find this entire excercise pointless and stupid.  Especially when we are more interested in getting actual work done than in making friends and saving the world.[/quote]

I’m not sure what to say.  I’m the parent of a teen who uses they pronouns.  Being misgendered contributes to their feeling suicidal.  We are doing everything we can to improve their mental health but in the meantime if you were their co-worker I’d be highly grateful if you shared your pronouns to make things easier for them.  It’s not your responsibility, and I don’t think anybody should force you to do so, but they would appreciate it, and it would go a long way in creating an environment where they felt accepted.  My child is highly anxious, shy, and has a name that is generally assumed to use she/her pronouns like Sarah.  [/quote]

What if I work in a male-dominated environment traditionally hostile to women? I don’t want pronouns in my email because I don’t want she/her to change the dynamics of the discussion.

I don’t want to make your child uncomfortable but I also really don’t want to be othered more than I already am. [/quote]

If you are asking my opinion...I think you should do what is best for you in this situation.  It sucks that there are male-dominated environments that are hostile to women.  I can't imagine that an environment that is hostile to women would be welcoming to those who are non-binary!  I hope my child has the privilege to avoid those fields.

I appreciate that the whole discussion is nuanced.  Somebody upthread wanted to understand how putting pronouns next to a generally female name would make a difference, so I tried to explain based on my observations of my child's experience.  
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