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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How were you raised? Did you see your parents entertaining and hosting a lot? Were you invited to a lot of dos?  We have a large social circle and some close friends. I like to have people over. Most people will attend but never reciprocate and that is a-ok.

For me to  host people I need to put aside time, effort and resources.  Hosting also requires a mindset and skillset. It is a culmination  how functional your marriage, family life, finances, social upbringing, health, household, network,  social status and organizing ability is. There is a reason that the rich will hire party organizers and caterers to host their parties, because it is time consuming.

We do not care if people do not reciprocate because most people are not capable of reciprocating.  They are short of money, time,  have other priorities, cannot cook, cannot clean, are busy with work, are depressed, have a small house, do not have the infrastructure, are low energy or are not socialized for entertaining.   We are grateful that people can take the time to come for our events.  Are you capable of being the person who hosts potlucks or low cost pizza parties? Would you be ok hosting a tea party or a book club?  And would you be ok if you never get invited back? [/quote]

This is so lovely to see. I bet you’re an excellent friend and neighbor. My parents didn’t host much, and I have a small house. I definitely see myself in this, though we did host things 4-6 times a year. I’d like to do more now and feel a bit stuck. Your post gives me ideas. [/quote]

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