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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guys are probably much less likely to share this information with you than women since I assume you have closer relationships with more women than men.

I'm a guy and I, as well as many of my male friends, feel similar to you regarding the spark being gone and marriage being somewhat of a grind. At least for me it's not a reflection on DW and is most likely just how things are with younger children and the level of time and energy they require not leaving much room for anything else.  I wouldn't leave over it or have an affair over it, it's just the way things are.[/quote]

+100.  This is spot on.  This is about the grind and realizing that it’s a phase in life.  Love that you realize it and are so mature about it.[/quote]

Disagree. PP is talking about the young kid phase, yet the subject thread is about midlife. (Note to PP: [b]if your DW is all about the kids and totally ignoring you,[/b] do both of you a favor and go have that affair).
It's one thing for the marriage to lose some degree of "spark" with newborns/infants in the house. And MAYBE (?) this is even slightly valid with "younger children". But at some point, it is NOT "just a phase in life" rather you are using "the kids" as a convenient excuse to avoid an actual RELATIONSHIP with your spouse. So No: I do not believe kids are a (valid) factor in [b]midlife[/b] marital unhappiness.[/quote]

So obnoxious. 99.99% of the time the reason the DW is "ignoring" the husband is because he's not helping with the kids. For him to then go pout and risk blowing up the family is just the most immature, selfish behavior. [/quote]

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