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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guys are probably much less likely to share this information with you than women since I assume you have closer relationships with more women than men.

I'm a guy and I, as well as many of my male friends, feel similar to you regarding the spark being gone and marriage being somewhat of a grind. At least for me it's not a reflection on DW and is most likely just how things are with younger children and the level of time and energy they require not leaving much room for anything else.  I wouldn't leave over it or have an affair over it, it's just the way things are.[/quote]

+100.  This is spot on.  This is about the grind and realizing that it’s a phase in life.  Love that you realize it and are so mature about it.[/quote]

Disagree. PP is talking about the young kid phase, yet the subject thread is about midlife. (Note to PP: if your DW is all about the kids and totally ignoring you, do both of you a favor and go have that affair).
It's one thing for the marriage to lose some degree of "spark" with newborns/infants in the house. And MAYBE (?) this is even slightly valid with "younger children". But at some point, it is NOT "just a phase in life" rather you are using "the kids" as a convenient excuse to avoid an actual RELATIONSHIP with your spouse. So No: I do not believe kids are a (valid) factor in [b]midlife[/b] marital unhappiness.[/quote]

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