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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I will not have sex with a guy if he can't show me a most recent STD test panel that is negative AND he needs to use a condom.  My gynecologist told me that she has lots of patients in my age range (mid 40's to early 50's) that are divorced/single and come in with STD's.  I have lived my entire life without an STD and I'm not about to start now.  [b]I would rather not have sex.[/b]  [/quote]

The most prevalent STIs are easily cured. HIV and HSV are easily managed.

I can't imagine going without sex but you do you. [/quote]

Yikes. I'd rather not get either of those. Managed? You might be taking medications for life if you get one or both of those. And infecting others. And having to disclose it at the dentist's office. Why would I risk that? No thank you.[/b]

Copied the above exchange because the new thing here of collapsing previous replies in a thread strips away context.

The last respondent above is right. It's so incredibly cavalier to just shrug and say, oh, STIs are curable and HIV  etc. can be "managed." Not always, not for everyone, and that attitude that "it's no big deal now" comes with the assumption that one is going to be just fine even with an STD. Not to mention the utter selfishness of thinking it's manageable to have an STD yourself, with zero consideration for your passing it on to someone else. And if a person won't ask others for their STD status and won't use a condom, well, that person also is not going to be likely to disclose to a sex partner, "Hey,  by the way, I have an STD but don't worry, it's manageable!" [/quote]

I am not sure there is any evidence that HIV can be transmitted through oral sex, and it is incredibly rarely transmitted through PIV. Even if your partner has it, it is nearly impossible to transmit through PIV, and it is incredibly rare generally, and especially among heterosexual people. You are innumerate if you are living your life avoiding sex because of that concern.

As to HSV, that is very common, almost to the point that you or your partners might have it without knowing it. Most STI panels do not even test for it. And it is very hard to spread without an active infection, and condoms don't necessarily prevent the spread! And of course, you don't have to disclose HSV to the dentist, and you don't have to take medication for the rest of your life to manage it.

It is always amazing to me how unaware people are of the actual risks and the lengths to which people will go to avoid them.[/quote]

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