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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here,
A lot of you are very judgemental and incorrect. I offer to pay for myself and step kids and join my parents on the trip to Paris. My parents said NO. They just want my kids with them. All the time it's the same answer and I stop asking except this year. Because of COVID, we have not travel oversea as a family in two years. My oldest stepkid is 16 and we wanted to take her on a nice vacation. All four kids are well travel since five years old and up.We have travel all over by saving our money, definitely not my parents money.

I am not money hungry, I didn't not break anyone marriage, dh and I were childhood friends and we met up after his divorce. We got married right away, had kids back to back. We grow up in the same area, went to school and had friends in the same group. I didn't need two to five years to know him before we got married.

I know for a fact that my stepkids don't travel anywhere with mom or her family. Because their mom and I get along and plan the girls activities every two months. Our family is healthy, open, and not rotten like some people here are talking about.

I am only child to my parents and I have given them access to my kids 100%
My parents are generous with helping my kids and I am ok with it. I am not ok when they completely ignore my stepkids. 
 [/quote]Was the youngest step daughter not born when your DH and his first wife separated?  The fastest divorce I know took 13 months and that was because they could forego the full year separation because of infidelity.  Otherwise, it takes longer.  This is why it is hard to figure out.  Did you date before his divorce was final and marry immediately after it was granted?  Were you already pregnant when you married?  Are the 12 and 14 year olds really closer to three years apart?

I just cannot figure out a timeline that works well.   [/quote]

OP here,
Dh and ex-wife were separated when she was six weeks pregnant with second kid. Dh and are didn't date while he was separated, we dated for six months and got married. [/quote]

Who separates when their spouse is 6 weeks pregnant and has a toddler? Holy red flag Batman!  That is like separating the week you find out you were pregnant. Why did DH’s wife feel so strongly?  She is a teacher who doesn’t make a ton. The cost of childcare is enormous for two and having to pay for a separate household- with no family nearby that can help. Divorce is expensive.  It just doesn’t make sense without a reason like infidelity or abuse.

But back to the timeline.  Say it takes 15 months to separate one year and file and get the divorce.  A fast divorce if there is not abuse or infidelity.  You and DH start dating the day after and date for 6 months. You marry and get pregnant within a month. 10 months later daughter number 3 arrives- which happens but is really really quick. That is 32 months.  So, it is closer to three years apart than two.  The timeline can be shortened, if you were pregnant before you married and/or if there was abuse/infidelity to quicken the divorce.

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