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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry but if you wake up, get the child ready, take them somewhere, stay out all day long, pick them up feed them dinner and put them to sleep you're NOT raising your child.[/quote]

Okay, then. So when your kids start school, I guess you're done raising them, too. Maybe you should have a big "Hey, I'm done raising you, have a nice life" party for them on their 5th birthday.

In other news, I have my child in an inhome daycare from 8:30 to 4:30. I thought I'd be the parent whose kid was there the least. But most families there use a similar schedule to mine. I have 1.5 hours with him in the morning and 3.5 hours with him before bed. So I get 5 waking, and his providers get 6 during the week. I think SAHers aren't necessarily getting the true picture of how a lot of working moms do things. It probably makes them feel better about quitting work, but it's not necessarily reality. Most of us are doing our best to strike a good balance between providing for and taking care of our kids. [/quote]

You completely missed the point. We're talking about infants here. Children that can't understand social settings and crave one on one attention. A school aged child craves interaction with other children and adults and it's healthy for them to be in that setting.

If you're happy with your choice there's no need to get all up in arms, defensive and trying to offend others just because we see things differently. I don't doubt you're trying to do your best. I never said that. What I'm saying is that when you're not with your child when they're awake you're definitely not raising them.

I was just reading the thread in General Parenting about toddlers doing lists while putting themselves to sleep and a lady mentioned her toddler repeating what he hears in daycare all day. A lot of parents came later on to say that this is how they know what goes on in daycare. How awful is that? Obviously I didn't say anything there but it must be really really sad not to know what goes on with your child all day and just hope they'll "let it out" while going to sleep in the end of the day. I'm so sorry for the little ones who go through this... It's sad to know that this is the best some parents can provide for their kids... I wish we all could afford staying home with our kids.[/quote]

I don't think I missed the point. Nor do I think I was overly defensive. And I certainly wasn't trying to offend anyone. (At what point did I say anything negative about being a SAH mom?)

But if you want to limit the discussion to infants, then okay. I actually work at home but am required to have childcare for my son. So, for the first 16 months (well, month 3 to month 16) we had a nanny share in our home. By month 5, here was the nap schedule of both boys. The nanny came at 8:30 and put the boys to sleep at 9. They slept until 11:30. They then went back to sleep at 1:30 until 4. I felt like such an a-hole paying for 8 hours of care when DS slept for 5 of it, sometimes more. I know not all kids sleep that much, but seriously, most babies sleep...a lot. I can assure you my kid wasn't damaged by having another person look after him when he was a baby. [/quote]

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