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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s just a ring. Why do you feel like it’s a dealbreaker?[/quote]

I think it’s important to many people in the way wearing a tux or nice suit and wedding dress at a wedding is important to many grooms and brides. Some people really don’t care but lots of people enjoy the traditional aspects of an engagement and wedding. An engagement ring (expensive or not) carries sentimental value and is a physical representation of the couple moving onto another, more serious, phase of life together. For many, saying “yes” and wearing an engagement ring is a significant milestone they look forward to.

Personally, I think if there is something your partner is really excited about and if that thing doesn’t overextend you in any way, you should try to honor your partners wishes. You should never go into debt over an engagement ring but I don’t think one partner should write it off as unimportant just because they don’t get what the whole big deal is. It’s important to your future spouse who you, presumably, love! At least making an effort to do something meaningful for them is important. [/quote]

+1. Sick of posters pretending they’ve never heard of an engagement ring before. OP have you not brought up wanting one? Why???[/quote]

It’s sentimental, yes. But if you don’t see eye to eye on it is it worth blowing up the relationship over if he’s committing to you for life?[/quote]

That goes both ways. If you're committed and love someone, why not just get a ring instead of blowing up the relationship?[/quote]

Because he doesn't want to go into deeper debt?!? I'm on his side on that one, by the way. [/quote]

I’m not pp but why would he necessarily have to go into deb?. OP has said he is working and could save for one but doesn’t want to. It’s OPs problem if she is demanding something way beyond his budget but there are many inexpensive options that could work in the short or long term. It’s weird that he hasn’t even brought up a ring and doesn’t want to discuss the wedding…[/quote]

+1. My “placeholder ring” was under $50 (we were both broke and in school) and now I use it as a travel ring. I treasure it and it holds so much sentimental value for both of us. [/quote]

I mean, I think OP has made it perfectly clear that she would not accept a $50 ring.

OP, why don't you settle this - how much do you want him to spend on a ring for you?[/quote]

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